Let's Talk About It: Drama

Why does it seem like some people always have drama going on? And here's the harder question: do they realize they're creating some of it?

Is there always someone you're upset with? Someone who offended you? A friend you're no longer speaking to? A family member who “started something”? A coworker who supposedly has a problem with you?

At what point do we stop asking, “Why does everyone do this to me?” and start asking, “Could I be contributing to this?”

Do we sometimes create problems simply by assuming we know what someone meant instead of asking them?

How often do we take something small, tell three other people about it, hear three different opinions, and suddenly turn it into something much bigger than it ever needed to be?

Why do we involve other people in situations that could have been handled with one honest conversation?

And here's a big one:

Why do we say we hate drama while continuing to talk about it?

If something bothered you, did you talk to the person involved—or did you talk to everyone except them?

When someone tells you something private, do you keep it private, or does it somehow become someone else's business?

When you see something on social media, do you immediately assume it's about you?

And have you ever posted something knowing exactly who you hoped would see it?

Most of us probably aren't going to admit to creating drama intentionally. But haven't we all had moments when we added fuel to something instead of letting it die?

Maybe protecting our peace isn't only about staying away from dramatic people.

Maybe it's also about making sure we're not becoming one of them.

So here's today's Let's Talk About It question:

If drama seems to follow someone everywhere they go, at what point do they have to consider that they might be the common denominator?

And an even harder question:

When was the last time you stopped during a conflict and asked yourself, “What part am I playing in this?”

Ana